Are you so tired and busy running your business and mothering that you don’t have the time or energy to connect with your partner?
Maybe you crave more connection and intimacy, to be truly seen and heard by him, but instead, the two of you always end up arguing about the same things, sleeping in separate beds, and disconnecting instead of connecting like you’d love.
As a new mama, it’s hard to express what you truly desire when you have so little time to think about what you want much less get it.
And when you finally muster up the energy and clarity to ask for it, your partner judges you as right or wrong for feeling the way you’re feeling or wanting what you want.
Or, he tries to fix everything right then and there without ever really listening to you.
There’s no doubt about it that being a new mama is super demanding. But, when you and your partner aren’t communicating in a way that makes you feel truly heard, seen, and listened to, motherhood becomes all about surviving instead of thriving.
And this makes you feel so alone and unsupported.
If your relationship feels distant or like it’s on life support since having a baby, it’s easy to say that this is just a phase of life that the two of you will have to get through and it’ll get better when the kids get older.
Or maybe you say that it’ll get better when the baby finally starts sleeping through the night or quits breastfeeding.
But, the truth is, communicating with your partner in a deep and connected way isn’t going to change because your baby gets older.
It’s only going to change when you learn how to relate and communicate with your partner in a way that the two of you BOTH feel deeply heard and seen.