007: How to talk with your partner about sex

007: How to talk with your partner about sex

Not getting your sexual needs met within your relationship is a source of great pain for many couples.

 

This is because most couples don’t know how to talk about sex, including their sexual desires and challenges in a way that feels safe and secure, or in a way that they don’t fear being judged or made wrong.

 

That’s why in today’s episode, I’m going to show how you can create a container of communication to talk about your sex and intimate life in a way that feels safe, easy, and natural.

 

The communication practice I’m going to detail for you today is called: The Reveal. This is a practice that you’ll do before having sex once a week until talking about sex feels natural. Then, I’m going to detail how to do The Recap – a communication practice that you’ll do after having sex so you’re not left in the dark wandering how things are for your partner or assuming things about the experience that might set you up for long-term relationship issues.

 

To get full access to the step-by-step process and audio guided practice, head here.

 

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To your infinite pleasure,

Lacey Broussard

 

006: How to reignite passion and desire after postpartum depression with Lauren Venable

006: How to reignite passion and desire after postpartum depression with Lauren Venable

In today’s interview episode, Lauren Venable and I talk about postpartum depression, the loneliness of motherhood in the early days and how Lauren got matched with a counselor/energy healer that was able to help her get out of her undiagnosed depression.

 

In the interview, Lauren shares how it took 3 counseling sessions before she could even answer the question: “What do you want?” and how she went into counseling thinking she needed to fix her marriage only to be surprised that it was more about learning how to take care of herself.

 

She also shares how difficult it was to admit the level of support she needed in order to feel like a happy, whole, passionate and radiant woman again. We also talk about how your radiance and light is a much greater gift than your selfless service ever could be.

 

Learn how Lauren was able to reignite her passion and desire after struggling with undiagnosed postpartum depression as she chose to sit with fear, instead of waiting to overcome it.

 

Lauren is a meditation junkie on a mission to help women experience more wholeness, passion, and self-love in their lives. She graduated with a BA in Psychology in 2011 and went on to become a certified Yoga Instructor before settling in as a wife and stay-at-home mom at 24.

 

After 2 years of quietly struggling with Postpartum Anxiety & Depression, she began her journey of self-healing and become a certified Reiki Practitioner in 2015. Since then she has used meditation, energy healing, and empowered storytelling to overcome anxiety, depression, and deep-seeded insecurity.

 

When her marriage ended in late 2015, she knew it could do one of two things: break her down or break her open. She chose to be cracked wide open and transformed. Since then, she has built two successful businesses, worked through some major heart (& life) healing, and cultivated a deep sense of self-worth, passion, and excitement in her day-to-day life.

 

Through her private coaching/energy healing sessions, group programs, and online courses, she has seen so many women return home to themselves & discover a new way of meeting the world and the curve balls that it throws their way. Her clients have transformed their marriages, overcome depression & anxiety, made peace with their bodies, and discovered an inner source of power & wisdom to create positive change in their lives.

 

You can join Lauren in her private Facebook group, The Balanced Roots Community, for daily wisdom and support here

 

Or read more about her work over at her website

 

To your ecstatic pleasure,

 

Lacey Broussard

 

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005: Try this ritual for deep soul connection with your partner

005: Try this ritual for deep soul connection with your partner

Today’s episode is all about soul connection and how you can experience it with your partner using one of my favorite Tantric rituals, Masculine/Feminine worship.

 

Whether you feel that your partner is your soul mate, wish that he was, or hope that he is but you’re not sure…this 4 step ritual will have you feeling more connected than you have since the two of you first met.

 

In today’s episode I discuss:

 

  • Soul connection – what it is and the difference between soul connection and attraction
  • Why so few of us experience soul connection or if we do, why we loose that feeling over time
  • The importance of ritual – what it is, how we can create ritual space to return to soul connection and attraction in a way that feels safe and doesn’t take a ton of time
  • One of my favorite Tantric rituals to experience deep connection and honor for your partner
  • The 4 step process for masculine/feminine worship so you’ll know how to do it yourself.

 

Here’s the process in text form so you can have it to refer to and try out with your partner:

 

Step one: Set up your ritual space

 

You’re going to set the room up for a sacred sexual experience. Have some candles lit, soft music in the background, make sure you’re showered and fresh and have the bed made and pillows set up.

 

Step two: Ask each other the following questions:

 

When you’re ready to begin, sit across from each other in a cross-legged position and ask each other the following questions.

 

1) What does being fully in your masculine/feminine mean to you? Share what it looks like and feels like and share some of your ideals for manhood/womanhood for yourself.

 

2) When s/he comes to a natural pause, ask her/him – What supports you as a woman or man?

 

Step three: See her/him as the highest version of her/himself.

 

As a man/woman, feel yourself transfigure into the highest version of masculinity/femininity. Feel yourself as a god/goddess. See yourself already as this highest version of yourself while your female/male partner holds this vision for you simultaneously.

 

Step four: pussy/penis worship

 

Starting with the man/woman, have him/her lie down naked while giving partner kneels in between the receiving partner’s legs. Receiving partner, taking a deep breath and allow yourself to receive this worship.

 

As the female partner giving this worship, taking a moment to look at his penis, feeling it as the home of consciousness, power, strength, and integrity – having a sense of reverence and awe of his penis. And then anoint his penis with oil as you repeat 3 times “You are sacred, you are sacred, you are sacred.” Finally, female partner placing both of your hands over his penis and kneeling and allowing a sense of love and respect for your man and his body.

 

Then switching roles and as the male partner giving this worship, taking a moment to look at her vulva, seeing it as the home, the temple of power, beauty, energy, love and sacredness – having a sense of awe and reverence for this beautiful part of her. And then anoint her vulva with oil as you repeat 3 times, “You are sacred, you are sacred, you are sacred.” Finally, male partner placing both hands over her vulva and kneeling and allowing a sense of love and respect for your woman and her body.

 

Episode mention:

The Art of Manliness blog, podcast, and book

 

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004: How to not loose yourself in motherhood with Maia Young

004: How to not loose yourself in motherhood with Maia Young

In this episode of The Multiorgasmic Mama, Maia Young and I talk about the pitfalls of loosing ourselves in motherhood…

 

how to know if you already have, and how to prevent yourself from it in the first place!

 

We talk about the struggle of having young kids and going back to work, creating businesses that support the lifestyles we desire, the self-care Maia practices and teaches as part of her morning and evening routines. We talk the importance of scheduling white space, how taking care of ourselves from the inside out brings inner radiance, the wisdom of tapping into the feminine cycles and putting ourselves first and finally, how to raise sexually healthy children!

 

Maia is a health coach, mom of two, daughter, community member, and soul sister. She lives in Maine with her two kids. After years of being lost in motherhood and following a professional life that was a path that other people thought she should follow, she has spent the past few years soul searching to re-learn who she is. By using the same tools that she now teaches to her clients, she was able to hone in on what makes her heart full. As a health coach, she wants to help women realize that nutrition is more than the food that they eat. It is the way you nurture your body from the inside out.

 

She wants to help moms model to their children how to nurture themselves from within so that children of the next generations can have a jump start on self-care and knowing who they really are, not what society tells them to be! Maia feels passionate about ending the epidemic of women losing themselves in our busy society. She has teamed up with Michaela Horvathova to spread their mission of giving women self-care techniques to put themselves first, become happy in their own skin, and to thrive and spread joy everywhere they go.

 

Find Maia online here

 

Mentions:

Byron Katie

Wayne Dyer

Louise Hay

Christian Northrup

Transcendental Meditation

Books mentioned:

“It’s Not the Stork” and “It’s Perfectly Normal”

by Robie H Harris and Michael Emberley

 

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003: 12 ways to rewrite the narrative on sex and motherhood

003: 12 ways to rewrite the narrative on sex and motherhood

For the past year, I’ve learned the one thing above all else that MUST be in place in order to reclaim the fullness of your sexuality while mothering – sisterhood.

 

But, I’ve also learned 11 other key things that must happen to rewrite the narrative of sex and motherhood. In today’s episode, I’m going to show you 12 things you must have in order to experience rapid transformation in the area of sex/love/relationships.

 

In this episode, I lay out a blueprint you can model to re-write the narrative on sex and motherhood within your mama tribe – a sort of container, a safe space to re-write this story not just for you, but for the collective.

 

Here are the 12 keys in short-order:

  • No more competition, find true sisterhood
  • Create a container of accountability and predictability to share stories and reflect and hold space for other woman
  • When your needs are met first, you can help others meet there’s
  • Educate yourself on sex and money – Consider how little you were actually taught about either.
  • Define what a successful relationship means to you
  • Uplevel how you love, relate and communicate in partnership
  • Learn to ask for what you want
  • Understand that you’re worth investing in and taking care of – you are your best asset
  • Do the basics to survive and then do what scares you to thrive
  • Learn the difference between your authentic yes and authentic no
  • Understand that sexual energy is the energy of life – if it’s not moving through you, your creative and energetic flow will feel cut off and you’ll be tired all the time
  • Realize that all emotions are inherently good even the bad ones

 

Books I mentioned:

Come as You Are – Emily Nagowski

Vagina – Naomi Wolf

Pussy – Regina Thomashauer

Wild Feminine – Tami Lynn Kent

Money, A Love Story – Kate Northrup

Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix

 

Fears/Loves/Desires 15 minute guided audio to learn how to hold space with your partner.

002: The journey back to sexual wholeness with Morgan Day Cecil

002: The journey back to sexual wholeness with Morgan Day Cecil

Morgan Day Cecil is a fellow sex/love/relationship coaching peer whom I met at a retreat in Mexico in May 2017.

 

Getting to know Morgan was like grace embodying itself. The power of her story and the way she tells it is one of the most captivating I’ve ever heard.

 

In this episode, Morgan shares her deeply vulnerable story of sexual abuse, eating disorder, the shame that came along with both, and her amazing story of redemption and healing back into herself and her body. Morgan shares how becoming a mother was an initiation back into the sacredness of her body and belonging to herself.

 

We discuss how your body and sexuality is for you, and how you don’t need approval from a man or anyone else to deem yourself worthy of delighting in you. We also talk about how yoga, mediation, breathwork, and tantra brought her back to sexual wholeness.

 

More about Morgan:

 

Morgan Day Cecil’s mission is to embody love, live in wholeness and help other women live in freedom, not shame. Through her courses, one on one work, and Sophia Experience Retreats, Morgan gently empowers women to come home to their hidden wholeness and sacred feminine and enjoy their body of bliss. She lives in Portland, OR with her two kids and husband.

 

You can find her at www.morgandaycecil.com and on Instagram @morgandaycecil

 

As a way to say, “Thanks for listening and helping me spread the message that women can embrace the fullness of their sexuality and be amazing mama’s too,” head over to iTunes and leave me a review and a 5 star rating for your chance to win a free jade egg February 5, 2018!