How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body

How to Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body

Do you often feel overwhelmed with your never ending to-do list?

Maybe ease and flow seem far off because you have a hard time getting out of your head when you want to be present with your partner or kids or in your yoga/meditation/spiritual practice.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with thinking, or with your thoughts…as a busy mama a few people might depend on you to get that to-do list done. But, sometimes, you’d love to turn it off for a moment to be more present and sensitive to what’s going on in the hear and now or in your body.

But, never being able to turn it off really dampens your experience of pleasure, of intimacy, a yoga practice, birthing a baby, or when you really just wanna be present with yourself or with your kids or a loved one.

My favorite + easiest + quickest tool to get out of your head and into your body is called Body Meditation and I tell you all about it and show you a quick demo of how to do it in the video below. Check it out here!

Tapping into ease and flow is SO much easier when you bring on board the wisdom of your body and your intuition, but that’s really hard to do if you have a hard time getting out of your head.

I hope you’ll take advantage of my FREE 10minute Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body Guided Meditation so you can tap into ease and flow on a more regular basis. All you have to do is put your name and email in the box below or to the right and I’ll email you the link right away!

Enjoy!

With so much love,

Lacey

p.s. Are you in Lafayette, LA and pregnant? Join me for prenatal yoga every Thursday 5:45 at The Yoga Garden to learn ways to relieve common pregnancy discomforts, practice building pelvic floor strength and flexibility, discover ways to aid baby to get in the optimum position for birth, and build friendships with other women due the same time as you!

p.s.s. Yoni Yoga Workshop #2 is happening at The Yoga Garden July 22 3-6:00pm. Go to the Facebook event page here to learn more!

Hospital Birth – The Good, The Bad & the Ugly

Hospital Birth – The Good, The Bad & the Ugly

I’ll be honest and say that hospitals aren’t my preferred venue for birthing babies or for attending births as a doula.

I mean, yeah, they’re great for treating sick people,

and some pregnant women are sick or have complications that need the sort of medical attention hospitals provide…

But pregnancy itself has never been considered a sickness.

So why are low-risk, healthy pregnant women birthing their babies in a place for sick people?

Even though it sounds safer to have your baby in a hospital because, ya know…”What if there’s an emergency?”

I often find myself wondering…

“How did that healthy, low-risk woman feel about being treated like a sick person for simply having a baby?”

And I never feel good about attending a birth at a hospital for a mom who I know will be treated like something is wrong with her for no good reason.

BUT I also know that hospitals are the standard for having babies – 99% of them are born there.

So, they play a big role in how we do birth in our culture.

And they’re literally changing how women give birth and how babies are brought into this world…

Mostly in anxiety and fear or for convenience or vanity’s sake

And plenty of women love it!

But, since the early 2000’s, out-of-hospital birth has been on the rise

So what better time than now to talk about it.

Not from a right or wrong standpoint, but… an open conversation.

People have strong feelings about where they should birth their babies…

it’s such a polarized topic and I’m honestly a bit scared to open up this conversation with you because I know how opinionated people are

But, I also know how important it is to talk about it.

Because 1 in 3 women report their birth to have been a traumatic experience.

And at the same time, plenty of women are super grateful and appreciative of hospitals with their life saving technology and interventions for saving them and their baby’s lives.

So, here’s my perspective on the good, the bad, and the ugly of choosing to birth your baby in a modern day hospital.

Hospital birth, in my opinion, became the status quo during first wave feminism not because it was safer, but because women realized they had the right to not feel pain in childbirth.

The midwives had stuff, but it wasn’t the gooood stuff.

And because of that, more and more women wanted the type of anesthesia in childbirth only available in the hospital.

So they flocked there where they could get knocked out and never even know the baby was born until hours later.

Eventually, doctors realized that such heavy drugs during childbirth weren’t safe and many women didn’t like them.

And on top of that, women wanted to be aware of what was going on, but they didn’t want to feel the pain.

Soon, the epidural was introduced for use during childbirth to reduce pain while still allowing the woman to feel the pressure necessary to bear down and be an active participant in pushing her baby out.

And ever since, the epidural has been the standard for coherent childbirth without the pain.

So, you could say that wanting to be coherent for your baby’s birth without feeling pain is a beautiful and amazing thing and that it’s possible with the use of the epidural in the hospital setting.

And we can’t forget how amazing the c-section can be for moms who really need it.

But, that brings us to the bad which is that epidurals and other unnecessary interventions in childbirth can go terribly wrong leading to a cascade of interventions that often lead to emergency situations.

And there’s no way to know if the epidural or any other intervention is going to negatively affect you or your baby.

It’s luck of the straw. Every body is different and you won’t know how you or your baby will react until you try it.

So, if you think of women giving birth in tribal societies even today, you see how hands-off most traditional midwives are.

They follow the laboring woman around and periodically check her and her baby’s vitals, but they don’t necessarily DO anything other than catch the baby when it’s time.

And over 90% of the time, everything works out and couldn’t be better without the need for any interventions.

But in most modernized countries, the story looks a lot different. Interventions are so common and widely used that women expect them and truly believe they need them.

And this only leads to confusion.

All the interventions create a huge misunderstanding leaving women feeling like they’ve got lemons and that their bodies weren’t cut out to birth babies.

Which is a total lie and misconception.

So…women praise the emergency c-section for saving themselves and their baby’s lives, but mostly only because an emergency c-section was needed AFTER receiving an unnecessary intervention.

Which leads me to the ugly…

The ugly is that the excessive and unnecessary use of interventions practiced in the hospital birth setting has resulted in the USA being the only country on Earth with a rising maternal mortality rate.

According to the World Health Organization, between 1990 and 2013 maternal mortality in the US has doubled while half of the maternal deaths could have been prevented.

Yes, hospitals are taking excellent care of high-risk women, but in the US, we’re leaving low-risk, healthy women behind with very few or even no options for birthing their babies in any other way than in the hospital…for sick people.

And that’s totally not cool.

Because we’re subjecting low-risk, healthy women to a technocratic model of care that sees pregnancy and childbirth as an issue instead of a normal, natural event that occurs in a woman’s life.

Women deserve the right to be treated as if there is nothing wrong with them…until there is. And by and large, that doesn’t happen in today’s average American Labor and Delivery Ward.

Instead, women are greeted with a needle for an IV, a continuous contraction and fetal heart-tone monitor that limits their ability to move, a vaginal exam, a drip of Pitocin, and an epidural and are then given a “trial of labor” to see if they’re going to “make it”.

All this for healthy, low-risk women.

And for what?

In the end, all people ever want and really crave is a healthy mom and healthy baby.

And so many don’t end up with that even with all of our technology and interventions

many times, because of the OVERUSE of our technology and interventions.

The answer, in my opinion, is a total restructuring of maternity care that utilizes the skill and expertise of the midwife as the primary care practitioner who refers issues out of her scope of practice to a physician when indicated.

The biggest reason we are so far from this happening is because of the fear that’s been instilled in our culture around giving birth.

We have midwives, but few healthy, low-risk women choose them because…fear.

If young girls were taught from an early age that birth was a normal, natural event instead of some scary, painful, medical issue, we would eventually irradiate the fear.

Women simply believe that they can’t do it either because it’s too painful and they NEED the epidural, or because they believe their bodies aren’t capable.

With the right support, education, and self-care practices neither is rarely the case.

The case for hospital birth tends to shift then when we learn and understand how the midwifery model of care for healthy, low-risk women really is a safe, extremely cost effective, and viable alternative that would potentially lower our maternal mortality rates

But, despite the research, people don’t want to believe it because…fear.

What I see is that people have such strong, personal opinions and carry so much fear and anxiety around the reasoning for their opinion.

But having a conversation about it can lead us to possible solutions that will give us what we want for our births while making it safer at the same time.

Thank you so much for having this conversation with me.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments section below what you think about hospital birth and our rising maternal mortality rate.

But remember, let’s be adults here and talk about it, not judge each other.

With so much love,

Lacey

6 Keys to Reclaiming Your Power and Confidence in Birth

6 Keys to Reclaiming Your Power and Confidence in Birth

Has anyone ever rolled their eyes or looked at you funny when you told them you wanted a natural birth?

That’s because we’ve all been brainwashed.

If you’re like me, you’ve been told since you were a little girl that birth is painful and horrible and that you’re going to not only WANT the drugs, but also NEED them.

So, you do what everyone else does and let the doctor handle it.

Unless you’re hardheaded like me and decide from the get-go that it doesn’t have to be that way for you.

Good new is… it doesn’t.

Bad new is… you’re gonna have to put in some time and effort to learn what it takes to reverse the brainwashing and get confident.

If you want to get confident about having an empowering, ecstatic, natural birth, you need to watch the free masterclass I have for you here.

Cause in it, you’ll learn the 6 keys to reclaiming your power and confidence in birth.

Only when you know the “what” and “why”, can you practice the HOW to have the birth experience you’re really wanting.

Check it out here!

With so much love,

Lacey

p.s. Have you heard I’m hosting a postpartum event soon? If you’re in Lafayette, LA, check it out here

What Tantra Taught Me About Birth

What Tantra Taught Me About Birth

Around this time last year, through an interesting series of events, I stumbled upon the practice of tantra.

Many Westerners are clueless about what tantra really is and only associate it with a particular kind of sex.

However, it’s actually an ancient set of tools, practices, and techniques that have to do with feeling the maximum amount of power, beauty, truth and pleasure inside of your body.

And it uses your sexuality to do that.

Through the play of masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) polarities, tantra empowers you to recognize the truth of who you are rather than asking you be believe someone else’s.

And, let me tell ya, since I’ve been practicing this ancient art, life has not been the same.

To be honest, after I hit my late 20’s, my sex drive went into high gear and I wanted to learn how to harness some of that energy to use for my own creative purposes.

Doing the doula thing and raising my kids required a mediocre amount of creativity, but I knew there was more creative potential I wasn’t tapping into that was available to take my life to new levels.

I wanted to create a business that allowed me financial and location independence doing what I love and having a positive impact in women’s lives by inspiring a revolution in how we do birth.

And I had no idea how to do that.

Then, tantra found me.

And now I’m overflowing with ideas.

So what does tantra have to do with birth? I’ll get to that in a minute.

First, it’s important to understand a bit about tantra before you can understand what it taught me.

One of the biggest concepts behind tantra that’s foreign to our western sex culture is that the focus is on pleasure with no agenda for orgasm or even intercourse.

Yeah, sounds totally foreign to our fast and hard, porn-initiated, focus on HIS pleasure western minds huh?!

Unfortunately, women in our culture are often expected to show up turned on and wanting, in the same way and time frame that men are.

And for a lot of us women, that’s just not how it works.

We need more time, we need eye contact, we need to feel safe and relaxed.

Seeing any similarities with birth yet?

Female turn on is still poorly understood. But, we do know that when men allow space and time to focus on our pleasure with no agenda or expectations, incredible things happen…like, we get turned on!

This is called “holding space,” – a very masculine (Shiva) thing to do.

In tantra, Shiva represents pure consciousness and feminine Shakti represents power.

When Shiva holds space through his consciousness for Shakti to step into her power, according to tantra, the two energies merge and worlds are born.

When women are given the space to use their power to create in their own unique way, amazing things like epic sex, babies, art, music, and ideas are born.

As I’ve learned, this sacred space holding is as important in birthing babies as it is to epic sex.

As a doula, I see it every time a mama is scared, anxious, and excited when her labor begins. Then, things start getting harder and she starts experiencing pain.

I show up, witness her, connect with her, hold space for her, and she calms down, feels safe again, drops her defenses, lets go, and settles into an ecstatic rhythm and ritual.

When I’m properly holding space for a laboring woman, even if she’s experiencing moments of pain, she looks like a goddess and experiences moments of pleasure and ecstasy too.

Something I had been doing in birth without even realizing it, was, in fact, one of the same techniques that men are taught in tantra to allow their woman to experience more pleasure and ecstasy than ever during love making.

This space holding is why women who are highly supported, loved, in a safe and aesthetically pleasing environment who are being witnessed experience PLEASURE in birth!

This is how orgasmic birth happens.

Unbeknownst to me, tantra taught me the importance of holding space for laboring women and that it’s just as vital to an epic and pleasurable birth experience as it is to epic and pleasurable sex.

And the ironic thing is, as a lover of divine feminine, it takes my masculine/Shiva/space holding energy to awaken the divine feminine/Shakti/power in the laboring women I serve.

What a beautiful play of polarities and balance indeed.

We’re always the last to figure out what we’re REALLY doing anyway.

With so much love,

Lacey

p.s. If you’re interested in learning more about tantra, my friend and tantrika, Layla Martin, is starting the next round of her Epic Lovers Masterclass July 20, 2016. You can check out this mind-blowing, life-altering, and upper-limits of pleasure breaking class here.

Oh, and if you’re wondering, that testimonial quote about how surprised I was at my typical jeep driving “dude’s” reaction to taking the class was…yeah, that’s me!

p.s.s The Optimal Fetal Positioning series WILL continue next week! With school being out, it’s been difficult to shoot videos with a house full of kids…I’m sure you can relate 🙂

“How can you have a pleasurable or even orgasmic birth?”

“How can you have a pleasurable or even orgasmic birth?”

I spent years avoiding pleasure because I didn’t have the knowledge or tools to get myself through the heartbreak that made pleasure unbearable.

I didn’t feel that I deserved it.

And I was too afraid to feel it for fear of loosing it…again.

Of course, that belief was under the false pretense that pleasure came from something outside of me. And no one told me otherwise.

So I spent years avoiding pleausre.

Nothing about life was sweet, music sounded ok, colors were just colors, and flowers were just flowers. I was not living. I was stuck.

Until one day, I vowed that I’d get myself out of this and find out what it’d take to bring pleasure back into my life and feel truly alive again.

Today, I consider it one of my greatest accomplishments to have turned all that around.

It took a hell a lot of courage I didn’t know I had.

It started with saying yes to my life.

And the first thing I said YES to after becoming single at 27 with a 6 month old and a 3 year old was a next level relationship.

Dating was scary. as. hell.

It took getting curious about what would happen if I let go of attachment and hope for the relationship I wanted with a particular man that wouldn’t say yes.

Then connecting with my desire and what brought me pleasure and focusing instead on that.

Letting go of negative, limited belief systems around pleasure and desire from childhood that no longer served me.

And after meeting my husband, expanding more and more every day into what is even possible when it comes to pleasure and intimacy between two people.

Unfortunately, I had no idea what was possible in the form of pleasure when I birthed my babies.

And even though I’m not having any more, I do know that it’s possible to have pleasurable, even orgasmic birth experiences.

I’ve spent a year and a half expanding the upper limits of pleasure in my body, and breaking through limits of possibility with my partner.

And I’m now feeling more alive than ever.

Sometimes, what I feel in my body scares me whether it’s pain in a particular area or a new sensation. Just like in labor and birth.

But instead of letting the fear and pain get the best of me, the wise woman inside me reminds me that it’s ok to be afraid, you don’t have to shut down.

Stop where you are in the fear, the pain, or the new sensation. Feel into it. Breathe. Move towards it. Lean into it. Slowly. Keep breathing. De-armor. There’s something amazing on the other side of it.

And that’s exactly what I hope for birthing women who are a bit more ahead of me than I was birthing my babies not knowing the possibility for pleasure.

Don’t let the fear and pain of labor and birth shut you down in the process.

Feel into it. Don’t escape it. Stay in your body. Breathe. Lean into it. There is pleasure on the other side of what you’re feeling.

And it will make you laugh uncontrollable.

Or cry in ecstasy.

Or maybe even scream like a wild woman.

It’s possible and I show you how right here in today’s video.

Are you excited at the possibility of having a pleasurable or even orgasmic birth? I’d love to hear from you about where you’re at and how you’re preparing for it.

If you have any burning pregnancy/birth related questions you’d love to ask, send them to lacey@laceybroussard.com and I’ll answer it via vlog in the next few days. You’ll remain anonymous.

With so much love,

Lacey

 

 

“What if I Never Get the Birth I Want?”

“What if I Never Get the Birth I Want?”

A common question to those of you who’ve had a less than stellar past birth experience.

Do you live vicariously through other mama’s going for the natural, empowering birth that you want?

Do you try your best to inform other mama’s in ways that you weren’t?

Do you keep having babies until you get it?

Many of you have had to put on your big girl pants and suck it up, deal, and eventually accept your less than ideal birth experience simply because you were never taught how birth can be empowering even if it doesn’t go as planned.

But, if you want another baby, how do you find within yourself to let the past go and keep aiming for that natural, empowering, healing birth anyway without feeling that you’re going to self-sabatoge your experience?

Will you ever get it? Can you ever get it?

Today, I’m giving you my answer to that common question in the video here.

As I speak with many women about their birth experiences, I’m often asked the same questions from expecting mama’s.

Over the next few weeks, I’m tackling them one at a time by taking your questions specifically and giving you answers to the most common ones.

If you have a burning Q that you’d like an A to from an experienced doula who’s talked with hundreds of mama’s about their birth experiences, email me you question to lacey@laceybroussard.com.

Please note that your name will remain completely anonymous if your question is chosen, and I’ll dedicate an entire vlog to answering it. Your questions help empower all of us so don’t be shy and ask anyway!

If you’re not already a part of the Empowered Birth Revolutionaries Email Tribe, you can sign up here to receive updates of new vlog and blog posts, and you’ll also receive many free goodies, video training series’, and free practical/useful .pdf’s that I only offer via email. Sign up here.

With all my love,

Lacey

p.s. The Empowered Birth Online Class is kicking off soon and ready to roll! If you’re due between July and October 2016, NOW is the time to sign up! Many bonuses coming your way (think essential oils, chiropractic care, and vbac info galore!) Click here to check it out and register!